Thursday, October 9, 2008

Hijab: what not to wear (a descriptive attempt)

I had a lunch with friend Andy and we had a really inspiring conversation about creative freelancing. She proposed to merge her photographic talent with my writing. I then saw her portfolio, and I must admit, they were mind-blowing superb captures of portraits and panoramas. Trouble is, such captures call for descriptive writing which I have no experience in. I write mostly informative and critical pieces. I heard that writing descriptives needs you to be a walking dictionary, knowing the right vocab at the right time. But then I thought, rather than undermining myself, I would rather spill my RAW descriptive attempt. Finding a topic is difficult. But then I thought what story could be written from my self-portrait photographs. As I schemed through my local magazines, an idea struck me – hijab!

Living among middle-eastern neighbours for nearly six years, I have observed the many trends of hijabs. I don’t proclaim myself to be expert in fashion, let alone Islamic fashion. (I started wearing them during college). Even during the early years, I couldn’t wear them properly, having stray hairs coming out and my friends labeling me as untidy. Like many Malays, I usually wear the classic tudung bawal – a square hijab with cottony texture. Tudung bawal works for many Muslims in Malaysian climate, as it is cool and absorbent. Most Malaysians wear it by folding it into triangle, putting it on head, pin under chin and finally pin diagonally on shoulders. They also flatter our Asian faces and come in any colour imaginable. The 45inches material is a favourite to many, students and corporate alike, until innovations came in.

From my observation, there are two distinct hijab innovations in Malaysia. The first is the emergence of 'a hybrid between selendang and tudung bawal'. Hijab innovaters somehow, sew in a readymade cap with a selendang for ease of use. They are great innovations, judging from their convenience and flattering effect to the face. Examples are the Dubai and Morrocan hijab. The second innovation is the many ways a plain tudung bawal could be folded. Hence, come the 'small roses on ear', the 'braid-style' and many more. Hijab innovations are blessings too many, but somehow, enthusiasts got too carried away with the don, resulting in serious waldrobe malfunctions!


Hijab: What not to wear!

Dont: Too much textures
If you wear ruffles, do not attempt pleated style on shoulders. You end up looking like a clown. The golden rule is to match opposite textures. The more flamboyant and superficial the outfit, the simpler the hijab style. The opposite is also true. Silk loose baju kurung works best with crisp tudung bawal and Syria hijab. If you put on that masculine, crisp corporate shirt, then you can carry that Dubai wrap or superficial feminine selendang. If you are wearing heavy textures, like cardigans and jackets, silky Bellisimia works great on you. Think yin and yang. Hard and soft, feminine and masculine, soft and crisp. Match them together.

Don't: Too many colours
My 16 year old niece looks chique just by wearing a pair of jeans, a plain shirt and a simple tudung bawal. When I asked her secrets, she said “don’t wear too many colours. Keep it to two colours”. Which means, if your outfit has two colours, then your hijab should exactly match the main colour of your outfit. Sounds boring? Try it and tell me if you are complimented. I guess its by applying this rule that my friend, Lyn looks classy even in a muted grey cargo pants!

Don't: Matching hijab colour to the least colour in outfit
Many Islamic fashion magazines suggest this. It works if you are not wearing hijab and are choosing the color of your neck scarf. But believe me, it is a horrific fashion faux. I have seen people copying this look in magazines and on streets and the effect? – hilarious! I agreed with profound local Islamic fashion designer, Yasmin Siddik (in her book Sopan & Anggun pelbagai gaya bertudung): your hijab should follow the main colour of your clothes, or two shaders lighter. You can buy her books in local bookstores.

Do: Keep it simple
Sorry girls, if you wear hijab, then you can’t put on that british wedding gown. Hijab means modesty. And lack of modesty is what killing the beauty of Muslim girls wearing hijab. The least you call for attention, the more flattering you look. If you really need to wear that colourful pleated shirt you bought from Bali and make it work for you, just wrap your head with a simple black selendang.

Don't: Thinking “if that works on her, then it will work on me”.
Your face shape is different from that lovely manniquin. If you have small triangle face (like mine), you cant put that thick cap (anak tudung) which makes your forehead wider. On the other hand, it looks flattering on my friends, Nurul’s round face. My friend, Ilya, has a lovely diamond shape face with prominent cheekbones, and she exudes elegance in that brown Morocco with temple-level cap. Yasmin Sidik and Dara.com were right, the bigger and more squarish your face, the lower and seamless your face side fold.


A Moroccan hijab with temple-level cap enhances my friend, ilya's facial asset - her high cheekbones.


Do: Shift focus to your face (for those not wearing niqab (face cover))
Generally, your first impression is your face, and hijab in some way, enhance women beautiful facial features. So if you wear one, and pair it with an outfit that slightly or totally reveals your body shape, a lot of your mystery and beauty disappear. The eyes watching will be shifted to your body instead. Remember, the mystery of a woman in hijab is what intrigues eyes of beholders!

o: Make only one focal pointA tube underneath a PDI cardigan works best with a simple, plain hijab of same color to your cardigan. Period. Wear a printed belisimia, people forget your cardigan is a PDI. The same applies to a flare printed skirt. pair it with plain shirt and a plain tudung bawal (dont try to fold the hijab fancily). Goldent rule is to choose only ONE focal point of your attire. If your really need to make that braid style, then just pair it with simple plain shirt and pencil skirt.

Don't: Thinking "that hijab is ugly"
No hijab is ugly. No color is boring. No design is unappealing. AND, no hijab is beautiful either. Don't believe regular fashion commentators who advise you 'to avoid bright colors near your face'.Remember, what makes it beautiful is the whole combination: your hijab AND your outfit. Considering ditching that old washed light jean blouse? Not really a good idea. Me and a friend have bumped into a lady pairing such blouse with a vivid, bold blue batik shawl (as hijab). The result - forget the old blouse, that 40 something turned heads! So, never, ever, underestimate the batik shawl you've got as a luncheon souvenir.

Do: Be creative
Bought a RM45 square Murtada and think you can wear it just by folding it into triangle? Why not try something a bit more daring? take a needle, a thread and sew into triangle. Then make your own cap and attach it to the triangled murtada. You make your own unique hybrid. I've attempted this and even had a hijab merchant asking me where I bought it! I've also cut, sewed and improvised a Syria hijab to suit my face shape.


Don’t: trying too hard
If you think you are doing a great deal hunting for a blue hijab with exact sunflower embroidery design to match your blue sunflower-embroidered baju kurung in a crowded street market, then be sure you are wasting your time and energy. Color-coordination is a must- but don’t go overboard. As we are all know the rule of human relation, no impression is made by one who is trying too hard! My friend Julie knows this rule. She always likes to coordinate the color her clothes, but the colors are not necessarily in the same shade and design. She could wear a brown kebaya and pair it with an unthinkable shade of cream hijab she used to wear to the gym. And it damn works! I always think of her wardrobe as ‘co-incident’. It as if, she never planned what she is going to wear and never bought an outfit and a matching hijab at the same time. It is like, she just woke up in the morning, take a shower, open the wardrobe and see what match from what available. I remember her as being voted the most stylish girl back in campus years (and she is still now!). Think of this: you have a plain light pink baju kurung. What hijab color suits you best? A plain light pink hijab? Good. A printed light pink hijab? Better. A plain white hijab you used to wear to the sundry shop? Best!



wearing a simple hijab style enhance julie's casual but chique outfit. Concentrating on one focal point (which is the red pants), julie shows why a cream colored hijab works better than a red one!


again, julie pairs a superficial flare skirt with a plain blouse and hijab.


If you really must make a 'rose' out of that tudung bawalI really dont quite favour wrapping your hijab tightly around your neck for three reasons. First, it enlarges your neck. Second, it ruins your coy persona. Thirdly, its chokingly uncomfortable. The more flare the hijab rests around your neck, the more pleasing, feminine and mysterious your face appear.

Despite simplicity, I always think MP Nurul Izzah has an effective way of putting hijab. Her imperfection is perfection! She proves that the more you left hijab flare around your neck, the more pleasant and modest you look.



i sew in a black cap on an abstract murtada


So there we have the dos and donts of wearing hijab! (though I still think my work looks like a critical writing). Nevertheless, i acknowledge that hijab tastes vary across cultures. The vast communities of muslim women however, gives room for more ideas, innovations and creativity.

3 comments:

Ilya said...

hye, kikie...this is a great article...hopefully people get more tips by reading your blog...keep on updating =D

whiteselendang said...

really thanks pal!!

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